The Hating is Dissipating

My youngest daughter is enjoying her gymnastics class a lot. It’s a parent and tot class so each of the little ones has a parent with them to assist with all the cute moves they’re doing.

A couple weeks ago there were just 4 kids there with an adult. We did their warm-ups of jumping, bear walks and walking on tip toes. It was already 10 minutes into the class before I realized that all the other parents were Dads. I was the only Mom there. A year ago I would have noticed immediately and have been devastated, hating the Dads and their cuteness with their kids. Their loving hugs and connection with their children.

But the hating is dissipating. I don’t feel as angry. I don’t feel as empty. It’s there still…the sadness, the longing for the way things should be. But peace is slowly creeping into my life.

Learning to live this new life is a day to day exploration. Figuring out how this is going to work without Steve. He was a light and rock in our lives. He was our cheerleader.

So, if your life is not working out the way you’ve hoped here’s some of the things I’ve done to help me over the last 2 years.

  1. Take Care of You – I’ve put a big emphasis on taking care of me so I can take care of my kids. Going to bed early, eating well, seeing my counsellor, going to the gym etc. What small changes can you make to your day which would be a bit more kinder to your body, mind and spirit?
  2. Find your Passion – I’ve done a lot of self-reflection over the last year. When death hits so close to home people often reflect on their life. Are they living the life they want? I’ve refined my business to grow the parts I really want to do more of. I’ve tried out different hobbies and keep exploring who I am so I can find joy today and not put it off. I know too well that life is too short.
  3. Enjoy the Now – I have been actively working on my inner game, my mental state. I could complain about how hard my life is (sometimes I still do) or I can embrace the gifts I’ve been given. My 2 healthy, brilliant little girls who are strong-willed and funny. It’s not all roses and picture-perfect moments but I’m grateful for my kids. So, each day, I’m learning to enjoy the now, the present moment.

So yes, the hating is dissipating. It’s being replaced by love and gratitude. I hope your hate is leaving too.

If you want more support, click here to join me in my private Facebook group Guiltless Grace.

Talk soon,

All Hands Deck – Ask for Help

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned being a solo parent is to be ok with asking for help.

I can’t do this alone. If I try, I will be too stressed out and tired. That’s no good for me or for my kids.

Also, when I ask for help, the others who help feel better. They get to help the girls and I. And they also get to see and bond with the girls if what they’re helping with is watching the kids.

Even the small things with parenting – ask for help. You don’t have to do it alone.

We used to live in close-knit communities with multiple generations that leaned on each other, cooked together and supported one another. We’ve become too self-sufficient.

My challenge to you this week – pick one thing on your to-do list and ask someone else to do it. Then let the outcome go. Things don’t have to be perfect. Talk soon,

 

 

 

What’s up with Bee Pollen?

Hey there,
I’ve never taken bee pollen as a supplement however a number of patients have mentioned it over the years so I wanted to see what was up with Bee Pollen?

What is Bee Pollen?

Bee pollen is considered a highly nutritious food because it contains a balance of vitamins, minerals, proteins, carbohydrates, fats, enzymes, and essential amino acids.
Pollen comes from various plants, including buckwheat, maize, pine (songhaufen), rape, and typha (puhuang)
It’s not the same things as  bee venom, honey, and royal jelly.
Bee pollen contains more amino acids and vitamins than many other amino acid-containing products like beef, eggs, or cheese.

Bee Pollen Uses

Orally, bee pollen is used for general nutrition, as an appetite stimulant, to improve stamina and athletic performance, for premature aging, premenstrual syndrome (PMS), hay fever or allergic rhinitis, mouth sores, rheumatism, painful urination, prostate conditions, and radiation sickness. It is also used orally for weight loss and obesity, bleeding problems including coughing or vomiting blood, bloody diarrhea, nosebleed, cerebral hemorrhage, and menstrual problems. Bee pollen is also used for gastrointestinal (GI) problems including constipation, diarrhea, enteritis, colitis, as a general tonic, diuretic, and for alcohol intoxication.

Topically, bee pollen is used for skin care in skin softening products, and for treating eczema, pustular eruptions, and diaper rash.

 

Safety of Bee Pollen

Bee pollen has been safely used in clinical trials lasting up to 30 days. So that means if you’re using it longer than a month – consult your health care provider and consider cycling on and off of it. Alternating with other products.
There is some concern that bee pollen might have uterine stimulant effects so you may want to avoid it during your period as it might cause a heavier flow. And you probably want to stay away from it if you’re pregnant.
Preliminary evidence suggests that a specific combination product seems to decrease some symptoms of PMS including irritability, weight increases, and edema when given over a period of 2 menstrual cycles.

Dosing of Bee Pollen

An initial theoretical dose is 1/8 to 1/4 teaspoon, once per day. The dosage may be gradually increased to 1-2 teaspoons one to three times per day (anecdotal). A spoonful at breakfast, preferably taken with a piece of fruit: the fruit fibers (raw hemicellulose) reinforce the activity of the fresh pollen.

Adverse effects

Hypersensitivity to pollens included in commercial preparations has been observed. Symptoms include allergic reactions such as gastrointestinal upset, rash, erythema, asthma, hay fever, nausea, abdominal cramps, diarrhea, and vomiting. So start small especially if you have allergies or are sensitive to other products.

Pollen Allergies?

Bee pollen supplements can cause serious allergic reactions in patients who are allergic to pollen. Allergic reactions can include itching, swelling, shortness of breath, lightheadedness, and anaphylaxis.

Bottom Line

If you’re thinking about it, you probably want to chat with your health care provider to double check it’s for you. And then start small.
And if you’re struggling with any of these health conditions we mentioned above, book a free meet the doctor visit with one of us to see how we can help.
Talk soon,
Dr. Whitney
Source – Natural Medicines Database

Healthy Immune System for Kids

Hey there,

Here’s a quick video I did for you moms and dads out there who want to keep your kids as healthy as possible this winter. A few quick tips to keeping them out of the walk-in clinic.

And if they do get sick, there are lots of different things we can do with natural remedies to get them better faster and prevent the next cough, cold or flu.


Talk soon,

Whitney

Superbaby & Supermom Mentor

3 Fertility Tracking Tools

We love to work with couples trying to start their family. Whether they are about the start tracking their cycles to start getting ready to try or they’ve been trying for a few years. There are always things we can help them with.

I’ve discovered 3 favourite fertility tracking tools that I love and I share with my patients. Here they are for you.

 

The Fertility App

Ok – everyone has an app for everything. And for each patient I see, they’ve got a new app. Lots of women rely on these to tell them when their fertile days are. However the majority of women have cycles that shift and only 10% of women actually ovulate on day 14 if they have a 28 day cycle. So, that leaves a lot of room for error.

My favourite fertility app is Kindara. It’s a free one that can track your cervical fluids, temperature, your period, your other things like mood, acne, PMS symptoms. It has a chart, a daily view and will do a cycle summary so you can see the length of your cycles over the months and years you may use the app. You can also switch back and forth from tracking to get pregnant or tracking to avoid pregnancy.

 

The Fertility Book

My favourite book has been around a long time and it’s had numerous editions. This is a great starting point for you and also a good life-long resource you may want to share with your daughters one day!

Taking Charge of Your Fertility goes in depth into the fertility signs your body gives you. No one teaches you this stuff!! I think we should go to high schools and let girls know about what’s normal and what’s not.

This book describes exactly how to track with temperature, cervical fluids and cervical position. There are even pictures and many charts to compare your own with.

 

The Fertility Strips

You can spend a lot of money on ovulation predictor kits and their fancy packaging at the pharmacy. We buy these strips online in bulk and sell them at the clinic in packs of 10 for your convenience.

LH strips or ovulation predictor kits are not for everyone. Remember our motto at the clinic is to “Make a Baby Without The Crazy.” So if these little strips are making you crazy…stop. It’s ok. you don’t have to use them. Some couples love them and feel like scientists when they are doing them. Each of you is different and your journeys are all different. Do what feels right, and stop what doesn’t, and try again later if you feel like it.

 

The Fertility Doc

I love helping couples on their fertility journeys and have worked with 100s of them now in our area. I’m like an Olympic Athlete Coach – I’ve coached people who’ve been there before. Those who have won medals and walked the path you want to walk on. I can tell you about the races, the pre-qualifying meets, tests, the mental game needed and how to take care of your body throughout.

If you’d like to see how I can help with your particular situation, book a Free Fertility Introduction Session with me at the clinic.

Talk soon,
Dr. Whitney

Little People, Big Eaters

How do we get our kids to love food and be healthy eaters for life?

That’s one of my personal missions and part of raising healthy, happy & hearty kids.

I recently spoke at Food Revolution Barrie about kids and nutrition. Here is the presentation I did. I’d love to hear what your biggest health issues are when it comes to kids.


Talk soon,

Whitney