The Perils of Parenting

Last night I was running down the stairs into the basement and stepped straight onto an upturned, jewelled tiara. 5 perfect puncture wounds appeared on the bottom of my foot.

I could have yelled. I could have demanded the girls tell me which one did it. Who left that on the stairs?! For me to step on?! And then bleed?!

They were already pretty horrified by my cry out in pain. The sight of the blood also really made them worried.

I took it as a teachable moment. Calmly explaining that this was a great reason why we shouldn’t leave our toys on the floor.

Am I the most patient mother in the world? Probably not. But I do know that there are many things that I do to make sure I’m in a better mood when I’m around the kids so I don’t lose my cool as often as I used to.

Here’s what I do to make sure I’m a calmer mom:

  • Get a good night sleep
  • Eat regularly (no hangry allowed!)
  • Take time away from the kids aka “me time”
  • Make my life enjoyable and not totally revolving around them
  • Counselling and coaching so I can know my feelings and reactions better

I love working with other moms who want to be Supermoms for their Superkids.

If you’d love to feel more in control of your emotions and your health, book in for a free intro session to chat more about how we could work together.

You’ve got this, Mama.

Talk soon,

Whitney

Bubble-Wrapped Babies

17% of new moms are suffering from postpartum anxiety versus only 5% who are suffering from postpartum depression. This is at an all-time high!

So what can we do about it?

Here, I chat about some moms from my practice and my online mommy group Guiltless Grace.

There are 3 steps you can start to take to decrease your mommy worry.

  1. 100 Deep breaths a day – simple and safe strategy to start decreasing the stress
  2. Take it off – take things off your plate. You don’t have to be super mom or wonder woman and do it all. Your standards can change when you have a baby. You have so much more on your plate, so take some things off.
  3. Ask for Help – ask me for help – we can talk about supplements, diet and mommy mentoring strategies to help you feel sane again. Ask your friends and family for help. You don’t have to do it all.

If you have any questions, let me know. I’m here for you!

Talk soon,

Dr. Whitney

Click Here To book a free meet the doctor visit with me to see if we are a good fit for working together.

The Hating is Dissipating

My youngest daughter is enjoying her gymnastics class a lot. It’s a parent and tot class so each of the little ones has a parent with them to assist with all the cute moves they’re doing.

A couple weeks ago there were just 4 kids there with an adult. We did their warm-ups of jumping, bear walks and walking on tip toes. It was already 10 minutes into the class before I realized that all the other parents were Dads. I was the only Mom there. A year ago I would have noticed immediately and have been devastated, hating the Dads and their cuteness with their kids. Their loving hugs and connection with their children.

But the hating is dissipating. I don’t feel as angry. I don’t feel as empty. It’s there still…the sadness, the longing for the way things should be. But peace is slowly creeping into my life.

Learning to live this new life is a day to day exploration. Figuring out how this is going to work without Steve. He was a light and rock in our lives. He was our cheerleader.

So, if your life is not working out the way you’ve hoped here’s some of the things I’ve done to help me over the last 2 years.

  1. Take Care of You – I’ve put a big emphasis on taking care of me so I can take care of my kids. Going to bed early, eating well, seeing my counsellor, going to the gym etc. What small changes can you make to your day which would be a bit more kinder to your body, mind and spirit?
  2. Find your Passion – I’ve done a lot of self-reflection over the last year. When death hits so close to home people often reflect on their life. Are they living the life they want? I’ve refined my business to grow the parts I really want to do more of. I’ve tried out different hobbies and keep exploring who I am so I can find joy today and not put it off. I know too well that life is too short.
  3. Enjoy the Now – I have been actively working on my inner game, my mental state. I could complain about how hard my life is (sometimes I still do) or I can embrace the gifts I’ve been given. My 2 healthy, brilliant little girls who are strong-willed and funny. It’s not all roses and picture-perfect moments but I’m grateful for my kids. So, each day, I’m learning to enjoy the now, the present moment.

So yes, the hating is dissipating. It’s being replaced by love and gratitude. I hope your hate is leaving too.

If you want more support, click here to join me in my private Facebook group Guiltless Grace.

Talk soon,

All Hands Deck – Ask for Help

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned being a solo parent is to be ok with asking for help.

I can’t do this alone. If I try, I will be too stressed out and tired. That’s no good for me or for my kids.

Also, when I ask for help, the others who help feel better. They get to help the girls and I. And they also get to see and bond with the girls if what they’re helping with is watching the kids.

Even the small things with parenting – ask for help. You don’t have to do it alone.

We used to live in close-knit communities with multiple generations that leaned on each other, cooked together and supported one another. We’ve become too self-sufficient.

My challenge to you this week – pick one thing on your to-do list and ask someone else to do it. Then let the outcome go. Things don’t have to be perfect. Talk soon,

 

 

 

Healthy Immune System for Kids

Hey there,

Here’s a quick video I did for you moms and dads out there who want to keep your kids as healthy as possible this winter. A few quick tips to keeping them out of the walk-in clinic.

And if they do get sick, there are lots of different things we can do with natural remedies to get them better faster and prevent the next cough, cold or flu.


Talk soon,

Whitney

Superbaby & Supermom Mentor

Little People, Big Eaters

How do we get our kids to love food and be healthy eaters for life?

That’s one of my personal missions and part of raising healthy, happy & hearty kids.

I recently spoke at Food Revolution Barrie about kids and nutrition. Here is the presentation I did. I’d love to hear what your biggest health issues are when it comes to kids.


Talk soon,

Whitney