Leaving the Kids & Letting Go

leaving-the-kidsletting-go

On my second last night in Hawaii, Stephanie, the beautiful Australian wife of one of my business coaches, asked if I missed the girls and then she said, “it’s ok if you say no.” We both laughed out loud. The permission she gave me was simple but so great.

She, being a mom of 3 totally understood that it was ok to have your time away from the kids. That enjoying myself, didn’t make me appreciate them less or that I was a bad mom. I didn’t feel regretful about my life or them in it. But I was just enjoying my time away from them.

I had permission to just appreciate my “me time.” That I had the opportunity to go away and do something just for me. To enjoy the sun, sand, friends, work, and totally immerse myself in my own needs. That it was okay to let go of taking care of my little people and of taking care of others in my practice just for a little while.

For these 10 days, I could just concentrate on what I wanted in the immediate moments of wanting sleep, snacks, to dance, to swim, to cry, to remember, to laugh.

For these 10 days, I could also concentrate on what I want for the future. Who am I, what do I want? What do I want for the girls? For our life together? For my work and my impact on the world? To “dream big, little pig,” as one of Jillian’s bedtime stories says.

I made the conscious and real decision to use my time away to become refreshed, reenergized and refocused.

3 Tips for Leaving the Kids and Letting Go.

  1. Remember they are in good but different hands. Grandma, Auntie or Daddy won’t do it the exact same way as you would. They might feed them food you normally wouldn’t or put them to bed later than you would, but your kids will be just fine. And they might even have good memories from it. I remember when my parents went away to New Zealand when my little sister and I were young. My grandparents took us to McDonalds for pancake breakfast. I’d never done that before and now I have a special memory to treasure.
  2. Give yourself permission to enjoy yourself. You left for a reason. To visit a friend, attend a conference, go on vacation. So be present and enjoy yourself. Your baby won’t have a better time knowing that you’re miserable. They don’t even understand the concept of time and how long you’re going to be away! So, give yourself permission to have fun. And savour each bite of every uninterrupted meal.
  3. Let go of the Mommy Guilt. It surrounds us in every area of our lives. We feel guilty for working and putting them in daycare. Or if we stay home with them, we feel guilty for not giving them the social experiences of other kids. We feel guilty for not putting them in as many activities as others do or not feeding them all organic food. We’ve gotta put aside the mommy guilt. It’s not worth it. I decided before we left, that I wasn’t going to feel guilty and that I was going to enjoy myself. My family made sacrifices to take care of the kids for me while I was gone, so I chose to honour them and be thankful and really soak up my work-cation.

So, go ahead, book that girls night away, go on a romantic getaway or even an afternoon away as the first “baby step” away from your baby. You deserve it and your kids will be happy when Mommy comes back happy and refreshed.

Talk soon,

Whitney

 

Whitney is a Naturopathic Doctor and Superbaby Coach. She sees moms and babies in her local practice and via Skype. She also is the creator of the solid food introduction course: The 30 Day Super Baby Program

Baby Food Workshop

Feed their futureHi there,
I wanted to share with you the news of our first ever Advanced Baby Foods & Beyond class. This is for moms and dads who have started to introduce foods but want more info. It’s perfect if your little one is 3-12 months old.

Baby Food Workshop Details:

BABY FOOD & BEYOND
Feed their Future from Milk to Meals
Thursday March 3rd 9am-12pm at Serenity Birth Studio in Barrie.

In this workshop you will learn:

BABY FOOD BASICS
– what to feed them, what order and how to do it
POOP PATROL
– the steps to take if they get constipated
THE 5 D’s OF ALLERGIES
– what the science says about developing food allergies
THE PEANUT PLAN
– the 3 steps to take to avoid developing peanut allergies
CRUSH CRADLE CAP
– 5 steps to beautiful baby heads
IRON INFO
– does my baby need iron?

Cost $47 +HST. Click here to register https://rootedinhealth.leadpages.co/baby-food-and-beyond/

What to bring:
Paper, pen, water bottle, layered clothing (in case it’s too hot or too cold for you), snacks (I’ll provide some too) and your baby.

Yes, babies are welcome!

To register visit: https://rootedinhealth.leadpages.co/baby-food-and-beyond/
Email whitney@rootedinhealth.ca with any questions

I look forward to seeing you there!

Dr. Whitney Young, ND

The Peanut Plan – Preventing Baby Peanut Allergies

3 Steps for Introducing Peanuts to your Baby

Preventing Baby Peanut Allergies

Allergies – Preventing Peanut Allergies

I was devastated to discover that my little sweet daughter was allergic to nuts! You expect your children to be perfect, right?

Well I did. I expected, since I’m a Naturopathic Doctor, that my kids were going to be the healthiest. I was going to do everything right and they would be the epitomy of health. So funny! I think I was bit delusional.

Being a first time mom, I guess I really didn’t have a concept of my plans and what actually would happen. You plan on doing everything right: going all organic, being a perfect mom, feeding them in a serene environment with only the best.

But life doesn’t happen that way. You are low on cash, so don’t buy this or that organic. You are at a friend’s house and your baby eats something you hadn’t planned. You swore you wouldn’t do antibiotics or meds for fevers but you do – and believe me – THAT’S OK!

This is actually a good thing. It really taught me to roll with it, to be more flexible. It’s also not healthy for my child if I’m a stressed out, neurotic mom who thinks everything they put in their mouth is poison. That won’t help them develop a healthy relationship with food.

So, back to the peanut thing. Yes, little Jillian turned out to have an anaphylactic reaction to walnuts and peanuts while in our home. Luckily it didn’t block her airways, she could breathe, but it was scary for sure. She vomited, was itching her face and tongue, and kept coughing. It was scary! So, how could I prevent baby peanut allergies in my newborn who would come along 2 years later?

Allergies are the earliest chronic disease to develop and the most common one in children.

The 8 most common allergies for kids are:

  1. Milk
  2. Shellfish
  3. Soy
  4. Treenuts
  5. Ragweed
  6. Bees
  7. Wheat
  8. Peanuts

People ask me – what’s with all the peanut allergies these days?

Why are there more allergies? Here are some theories:

  • More ceserean sections and antibiotic use, which can increase risk of eczema and asthma which are risk factors for developing food allergies
  • Use of NSAIDs which can damage the lining of the intestines (part of your immune system)
  • Higher obesity rates
  • Higher rates of vitamin D deficiency
  • Less exposure to parasites, bacteria and viruses that help teach the immune system what’s safe and not
  • Delayed exposure, so then more likely to be introduced via another route – skin or inhalation which alters how your immune system might respond to a food in the future
  • More environmental toxins, like BPA and heavy metals, which have been proven to affect the immune system
  • only 1.9 percent of peanut eaters developed a full-blown allergy, compared with 13.7 percent of peanut avoiders. (study in UK, 600 children)

The Peanut Plan – Preventing Baby Peanut Allergies

  1. Introduce peanuts early. When you start to introduce foods around 6 months (see Is my baby ready for solids) include peanuts in that first month.
  2. Try Bamba or natural peanut butter – get that good stuff from a health food store
  3. Eat peanut butter 3 times a week going forward – my pediatric allergist said this is a great way to prevent allergy. Don’t just give it to them once and then not again for 6 months. More allergies may develop that way.

So that’s The Peanut Plan. I’ve got so many more things I want to share with you parents so please let me know if you want to stay in the loop about it – Like us on Facebook so that you are sure to get all the news.

Also – sign up for my talk at Goodness Me! On Jan 26th in Barrie. Register Now.

Talk soon,

Whitney

 

Resources:

http://www.todaysparent.com/family/kids-with-serious-food-allergies/

http://www.todaysparent.com/family/family-health/8-most-common-allergies/image/9/

http://avivaromm.com/preventing-food-allergies